I was cleaning out some papers the other day and ran across some mementos from when Jon and I were dating. It seems like a really long time ago! I was remembering the first time I met Jon (he seemed so shy – Jon is NOT shy), our first date (lunch became a four-hour event)… lots of fun memories!
I remember feeling half-excited and half-scared-out-of-my-mind the longer we dated. What if he was the guy I was supposed to marry? What if he wasn’t? How was I supposed to know this?
A long time ago, my friend Kaitlin and I wrote up this huge long list of all these qualities we wanted in our future husbands (I consider this list future blackmail for Kaitlin now). 🙂 Some of it was serious – i.e. “Strong Christian”. Most of it wasn’t – i.e. “Coffee Drinker”. (Actually, that one was serious. 🙂
The List had been buried in my desk for a while when Jon and I started dating, but there were a few things on there that stuck with me as I started trying to decide if this was the man for me. I wanted a guy whose walk with Christ wasn’t just words. I wanted someone who had a sense of humor, who liked spending time with me, who fit in with my family and someone who had a family I could fit into as well. 🙂
I wanted a guy who wouldn’t compromise his morals, but would compromise when I picked a chick-flick instead of an action movie for Movie Nights. I wanted a guy who was fun to talk to, interesting to listen to and who wasn’t afraid to show affection in public.
God definitely blessed me with everything I wanted, needed and more. 🙂
So, this trip down memory lane got me wondering: What is it you guys are looking for or did look for in your future husbands? 🙂
I had a similar list – one that I compiled about five years ago with two roommates. It lived on our fridge and whenever one of us was thinking about dating someone the list would come off the fridge and we’d see how the guy fit!
When our flat split up one of the others kept it and at some point it went missing.
Then, crazy God timing being what it is, she found it again last year (four moves and two countries later!) when I had just started dating someone and emailed a copy of it back to us.
I went through the list and the guy had everything on it. Even the crazy stuff that I had forgotten about! It was one of the many ways I knew that God was telling me this was the guy for me 🙂
I had a “List” too. I made it in high school and tweaked it a few months before I met Greg. I happened to be dating another guy at the time and felt I needed to compare this other guy to Greg. Well, I did and the rest is history! 😉
~ Jen
I wanna make a list…… I think Ill go start
I like making lists for everything. 🙂
Some of my future husband requirements: must get along well with my family, have a strong personal relationship with God, be good with kids, hard worker, must like my cooking. 😉
Negotiable: funny and outgoing, music lover, coffee drinker (hadn’t thought of that last one until you mentioned it!).
I had no idea what I was looking for in my hubby until I found him, let him go and he came back to me. Cliche, I know. But 100 percent true.
I think I will keep him for all times. <3
These are awesome, guys! Here’s one of the ones Jon didn’t fit: “Hates country music”. Though, before Jon and I met, I actually started liking country, so it didn’t really come into play anymore. And even MORE shocking was our first dance was a country music song! Yipes. 🙂